December 6, 2013
A while ago I took a voice-seminar. It was really useful and interesting to get to know my voice a bit better and to understand how voice works and how you can manipulate and influence your voice. But the one really impressive piece of information and experience that stuck in my head was that the way you feel about something influence your voice when you are saying.
So if you like mango, you are more likely to say it with your strong, warm and deep voice from your stomatch, but if you don’t like it, your voice will more likely be thin and pitchy. It’s because your voice strings develop their best ressonance when relaxed and that is when you feel fine and relaxed. So if you think/ talk/ do something you don’t like, your voice strings can’t really relax and you can hear the difference, if only are aware of it and pay attention… Try it out! Do you hear a difference?
November 30, 2013
There are lots of research articles about how essential it is for the development of children to play. It is good for the imagination, the social competences, the cognitive abilities … for just about everything. Besides, it is kind of natural, that children need to play, nobody would really have something against it.
But at some weird point children grow up and somehow somebody have convinced everyone, that the difference between children and grown-ups is, that grown- ups don’t play children’s’ games anymore. It’s not like gown ups don’t need to play anymore, because they do no less then children, they are just supposed to play differently. With more expensive toys, with tablets, consols, by some hobby etc. No grown up just play like simply jump up and down or something, you are supposed to go to the gym or to a club to move your body and there are lot’s of rules of how you are supposed to do it, nobody just really goes crazy on the dance floor like when children dance just the way they feel like…
You really don’t need anything to play, only your imagination, so why do we need all this expensive toys, to support the economy?
For my birthday last week we went to an indoor playground on a “over 18 night” and it felt like so amazing to just play around like kids. It makes you feel so free and careless, so beautifully happy, like a kid It really gives you the kick, it’s the ultimate drug.
It’s so sad, that most of the adults have to have a drink or something in order to be free enough to be a little bit goofy. That’s stupid, let’s just play!
November 21, 2013
One very good friend of mine send me this link: http://www.theminimalists.com/game/ and suggestes to play this game together. It goes like that:
You have to get rid of one thing you posses on the first day (throw it out, donate, give to someone else, it just have to be out of your place), on the second one two thing, threee thing on the third etc. We agreed to sort this things out and keep them in a box till the end of each month, so that we would 1. have time to reconsider and 2. have to go to the donation station etc. only once a month.
Well, of course this sounded awesome, because I often think that I have too much unnessesary stuff, so we started the game yesterday. In the beginning we have it really easy, because each of us had already sorted somes tuff out to donate/ trash, but they were just lying around in some box waiting for someone to do it. So now at least one a mount we will do it. In the first month we would have to sort out 465 things – let’s see, if we’ll get till there. If it get’s too hard, we could change the rules to one thing every day – it’ll still be better, isn’t it?
I’ll start with some old pants, jeans and shoes (the waffle iron would have to go too soon). What about you?
November 15, 2013
I’m an optimist. I think that you can solve every kind of conflict or problem between people trough communication or at least help solving it in a peaceful way. I also still believe that people are good in nature and that every “normal” or “wise” person will explore every possible peaceful option before starting threatening others and showing off with power.
Therefore I was a little disappointed to find out that several studies like that one show that communication is only good when people don’t have a threat-option. So we need to make sure that no one have a weapon or is more powerful than the other in order to have a constructive communication? But today everybody has “a weapon”, e.g. money. You’re not happy with your boss? So what would you do? Threat him that you’ll quit, then he’ll threat you that he’ll fire you first? What’s the point? Are we really so stupid, that we would always use the threat option first? Or what would you do? Do you wait with your use of threat, or do you apply it right away, when you have one?
It’s way better first to talk about the problem and search for a solution together, peacefully, like “grown-ups”. I’ve always found that expression so ridiculous. From my personal experiences I would say that children manage conflicts way better than grown-ups for just one reason. When a child have some problem with something, it says it. It says it as it is, without the sandwich-technique or considering what options does it has and if you have better “weapons”. But as it seems, “grown-ups” do the opposite – they communicate constructively only if there’s no possible destructive option. That’s just stupid, so grow up and talk with each other honestly like children, it’ll make the world a better place.
November 6, 2013
Help me, please – there is some really weird rumor about how women “communicate” that is making our lives complicated!
I don’t get it – communication with women “is supposed” to be so exhausting and confusing, you just can’t do anything right – just google “how to communicate with women” and you’ll see. I find that supposed “women language” very difficult – are there classes where you can learn it? (unfortunately – yes, even many…) I simply don’t get this “language” and me and my husband have arguments now and then, because I don’t set him all the communication-traps that women “should” do, but he expects me to… Who thought man this kind of crap? I guess they weren’t knowing, that it’ll make everyone’s lives harder…
Wouldn’t it be nice, if everyone would just say what he/ she thinks and thinks what he/ she says. Who needs these “women/ man languages”? What are they good for besides conflicts and waste of time? Do they really exists? Are women really talking like that, just because we are “supposed to”?
So let’s start a rumor about how everyone (man and women!) is “supposed” to just say what they think and think what they say
November 4, 2013
Often enough I get into discussions about this “border”, where something becomes “weird”. Mostly I have to explain myself:
“how come you don’t think this is weird, do you find this normal, would you also do it that way?!?”
and I’m like
“well, no, this may not be “my way”, but I can imagine, that some people could find that not “weird”, but just “their way”" or vice versa.
So after a while I get a:
“OK, it really could be that this other person finds this not weird, but it’s still strange, that he doesn’t find it weird, isn’t it?”
I find it really interesting, that it is hard for many people to imagine how other people feel about things and that it could be really different as the way they feel about the same things. This is actually kind of the foundation of our society – we all strive for individualism and want to be unique and special. And we are. Exactly because the things I feel and think are not the exact same things as you feel and think. Yes, there is some common ground – both can be categorizes as feelings and thoughts. For anything further you have to know a person really good and share some values and traits. So usually we peer up with people with similar interests, feelings and thoughts, because it’s only easier. But that doesn’t mean that other people don’t exist – they do! And they probably think you’re weird…
October 29, 2013
This was an interesting question I saw on the Blog of the Perspective Collector, one really interesting person So it’s simple:
“If you were guaranteed that no-one would ever find out that you stole a million dollars, would you steal it? All you have to do is walk into a room and take it – no robbing a bank or anything. Just like taking a pen from a desk. Don’t bother asking the what if’s or the but that isn’t possible, IT’S HYPOTHETICAL!”
So this is not a moral situation like in the Black Button, where you have to kill someone for the money, this someone possibly being you, someone from your family or just really a randomly chosen ANYONE on earth.
You only have to STEAL the money and it’s even guaranteed that you’ll never have to deal with legal consequences. My only problem with it would be that I wouldn’t know who do I steel that money from. I mean, I would be more than happy to steal a million dollars from the Nestle CEO (even if that could kind of make me look like a bad person for some people), but I wouldn’t want to steal it from people, who really need the money.
The only reason I would want to steal the money anyway is that I think, that with a million dollars one could really make some difference for the many starving people in the world, if one only really really wants. Not only in order to get tax benefits, but because he really wants to help these people. I believe, that the people, who really want to help, don’t have enough money to do it, and those who have the money, don’t really want to help. For me that’s the only explanation why so many people have to starve and die terribly in a world, where other people spend unbelievably lots of money on all the crap that “luxury labels” are producing and where a single person has more money than some countries put together…
So to make it short – I would steal the money, simply because I believe, that I could use it in a way that would help much more people than the stealing would have hurt…
What about you?
October 26, 2013
Often enough I ask myself stuff like “Should I …”, e.g. “Should I stay or should I go?“, “Should I quit my job?“ etc. I’m sure you do it too. And every time I can’t help but think to myself: It’s so simple! Every time I’m asking myself such a question, there is only one very simple answer, every single time it’s always the same answer, every freaking time! And it’s only logical… So, to wrap it up for you:
Every time you ask yourself “Should I…” the answer is YES!!!
Yes, of course you should, why else would you ask yourself this question man?!? Apparently you are thinking about it, so you have the desire to change something so you should change it, definitely. The “Should I…”-question is actually an “Do I have the guts to…?”, “Is this the right time to…?”, “What is the best way to…?”, “How exactly do I do… the best?” etc.
So yeah, I should. And when I figure out the other questions, I would What about you?
October 19, 2013
hello kitty feminist
I am a feminist, simply because I believe that both genders should have equal rights and nobody should be discriminated on grounds of their gender. This is what feminism is actually about, in my opinion. But often I feel like it goes way beyond that.
Sometimes it’s about how you raise your children, how you dress etc. At least that is the feeling I always get from my feminist friends. Some are very tolerant, others not so much. It’s always really good, if your son doesn’t only play with cars and guns, but also with puppets and other “girly stuff”. Really the best is if your little girl loves blue, green or yellow, play with lego, cars and pirates and doesn’t even own a barbie. Little girls who play with puppets and love hello kitty are kind of… not feministic. Exactly like women who take the name of their husband after the marriage, or women who marry at all, or women who stay at home and prefer to be a full-time-mothers and “have it all”, or also women who dress like obviously really sexy (not classy sexy, just sexy) or even worse – girly…
This is kind of wrong, isn’t it? Isn’t feminism about not discriminating girls or boys, regardless if they play with puppets or cars and not about trying to simply switch the gender roles and try to make boys more girly and girls more boyish? Isn’t that leading to just another problem of the same manner, as we are not becoming more tolerant about personal choices, but simply starting to prefer and reward “not traditional” personal choices…
It’s just something that always comes to my mind when talking to some feminist friends… How do you feel about it?
October 10, 2013
Today me and my beloved one are celebrating our seventh anniversary And we got married this yeas, so there is a lot to celebrate. Often I hear people saying stuff like: “Ow yeah, seven years together, you have to be creative to keep it interesting…” etc. So here is a very simple answer:
It’s so simple. When you’ve found someone you really really love, like unconditionally, like a child – meaning without really knowing why, just feeling this inexplicable joy when looking into his eyes, you don’t need to be creative or something to keep it interesting. You only need one thing to make every moment the most special and precious in the world – you two together! And then in doesn’t matter if you are at home, in Paris, at the beach or at some super-duper concert, if you’re young or old, dressed up or tired and without make-up – it’s always special and interesting! And the best thing is – it doesn’t get less interesting, you just want more and more of it!
Or at least it’s been like this for me by now and I hope that it will last forever… which may be naive and foolish, but what should I do - people in love tend to foolishness
I wish you a day full of foolishness! Acting foolish can be so much fun!
yours coping koala
PS. that’s why we will probably “celebrate” every month being together or being married, like we did all those years, because we don’t need anything else for this celebration besides the two of us and it’s just an extra occasion to show some random little acts of kindness and love, so why give up on them?