March 11, 2014
Do you know how sometimes you are fake-smiling and at some point you start feeling happier, like for real and not fake-happy, although you started with a fake smile? Well, I don’t… But it’s really how it’s supposed to work, there are enough studies showing that the outside can and does affects the inside greatly! And even if it hasn’t really worked for me with a fake smile, it surely works on a cognitive basis, like when you live in a city everyone says it’s the best – yeah, that starts to feel good in a while I imagine that this is the only reasonable reason to live in New York and I would gladly buy it …
This TED-talk is about this effect. E.g. it says that people, who were taking powerful poses (standing straight, bright arms etc.) before going to a job interview did a lot better than people who were taking powerless poses (head down, touching the neck etc.). But the bigger deal there for me is, that this was due to them showing more presence and personality. Not a fake personality or an ideal personality, there were showing their own real personality more! So, it’s not like you show a fake image of you when e.g. you fake power before a job interview, but you’re just hiding your real personality more when you don’t…
So isn’t this proof that fake really is the new real?
PS. remember this?
March 9, 2014
Southpark often has some good points, but one of their best ones was the one with the “racist flag”. Do you know the one, where they want to change the town flag in this one:
and everyone is really horrified by it, because the black guy is being hang, but the boys can’t get why everyone is so shocked by the flag, because it doesn’t even come to their minds, that the colour of the figures even matter. Well isn’t this how it should be – there are four white guys and one black guy, but all you see are just five guys? And it doesn’t come to mind to treat the black one differently, because skin colour is just as meaningless to you as eye- or hearcolour. Is this even possible?
I really don’t think that I’ll live long enough to see a society like that. Today even hear colour is still sometimes the object of prejudices. A movie about slavery has just won the oscar – so race is still very very noticeable. Maybe we’ll never overcome it, but in many many years, we all will be so mixed up, that all the races will become one “unirace” with features from all races. Then it wouldn’t be that easy to differentiate races… Although, today we see discrimination not only based on race, but also on other stupid things, that you really don’t see at first sight. E.g. in Germany there’s still a big gap between West- and Ost-Germany, although people look pretty much the same in both… So maybe there will always be some kind of discrimination, but only based on different things than race? Is this the best we can reach? What do you think?
It’s pretty sad that today I really can’t dream the dream of Martin Luther King and imagine a world where people aren’t being judged by their colour, OK, maybe they’re not being judged by their colour, but their colour still matters a lot and brings up lots of prejudice and maybe is partly responsible for the enormous gap between black and white prisoners… We need prejudice to simplify the complex world around us, but really, do we need so much? Come on, we can drop some out, let’s start with the big ones, because they really matter! Or if you want start with the little ones, any kind of reducing prejudices is still a step forward
PS. check out this video
March 9, 2014
The winter is going home, so let’s say a nice goodbye with these pics:
March 2, 2014
It’s amazing how little simple things can be so brilliant. For example an apple slicer, it’s genius! It increases the apple intake by 50% according to my personal experience
You may think – well, this is like really old, it’s been out there forever, why talk about it now? Well, I just discovered it two weeks ago. I was visiting friends, saw it in action and was like totally amazed It’s like – you get perfectly shaped apple slices with only one hand grip, that’s amazing! It’s also good for your apple intake, because you can easily share an apple with other people, so the apple wouldn’t get wasted for sure. It’s these little genius things that give me hope in humanity.
What makes me doubt in humanity is, that this little piece of genius only costs 1€ in every 1€-shop. Why do we need 1€-shops anywhere? So that people would buy useless things only because they only costs 1€? Otherwise, a genius thing like an apple slicer could be useless for someone else…
February 21, 2014
Sometimes your eyes meet the eyes of someone else and you just know – this is it, THE LOVE! You can’t take your eyes off and if you’re lucky, it’ll last for a long time. This is the kind of love I believe to have with my husband.
What I find most fascinating about this love is, that It’s a very simple kind of love. In this post it’s suggested that there are three kinds of love: “I love you because”, “I love you if” and “I love you in spite of”. So I thought about our love and it’s none of these three, it’s just a simple “I love you”. In case of doubt it’s a “I don’t know why, but I know that I love you. I don’t need a reason to love you, I just need to look into your eyes and I know that I love you”. This is how love at first sight works for me, from the first day on. Read the rest of this entry »
February 15, 2014
That’s not only a very good song from Moby, it’s kind of true – we are all made of star dust. Not only we, everything out there. That’s kind of really nice – it’s the circle of life in big. Someday our sun will explode and make star dust for other lifeforms someday…
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February 7, 2014
There were lots of revolutions lately and in the few past years. There was the arab spring, the protests in Turkey, now there are some angry Ukrainians etc. … Well, also there were some Bulgarians on the streets since June (more than 8 months already). While the protests in Turkey and Ukraine are presented in the media very detailed and receive quite the support from foreign media, the protests in Bulgaria were not that present in the media. The important foreign media only reported about the protests in Bulgaria when there were escalating and there were injured demonstrators. As this was not that often, the media didn’t reported that much about this protests. After all – there were lots of other demonstrations and protests with much more injured demonstrators.
Isn’t it only fair to report more about the protests where more people get injured? Kind of yes… but doesn’t that tell people, that only a bloody news are news? At least that’s the message I get from the media and that’s kind of the wrong message, isn’t it? Why do we learn to solve problems without violence as children, when later on violence is all that counts? Isn’t “Eight months of peaceful protests in Bulgaria” a good headline? Not really, it’s just not that emotional as “100 injured in protests in …”
It is only logical that we react very emotional to violence, but that is simply because they shouldn’t occur on a daily basis, it’s something very extraordinary that normally shouldn’t occur that often. So the right message would be to show off peaceful protests as a good example, to report about them, simply to show that it is an option. I believe that it is the more mature option, it is the option that really stands for change as it doesn’t do things like the government but in the way we teach out children – don’t treat others like you don’t want they to treat you. But also the more difficult option, because you need lot’s of endurance to achieve your goal. So dear demonstrators in Bulgaria – I wish you all the endurance you need to achieve your goals!
PS. as Justine from Smiling shortly wrote, at least the european government is showing some interest in the protests and is trying to understand what’s going on, which is really difficult as there is no real freedom of speach in the Bulgarian media…
The godless paladin also wrote an interesting article related tot hat topic – check it out
January 31, 2014
Maybe you remember that I’ve wrote about the minimalistic game a while back. Me and a good friend of mine have tried our best at getting rid of useless stuff since then. Well, I guess she’ve done better than me, but that’s not the point… We are pretty flexible with the rules. It’s like totally impossible to go by the rules, if you do, you’ll have to get rid of 465 things at the end of the first month. And the next day it’ll be 466, then 467, 468, 469… Cudos if you can do that, but I’ll have to go buy new crap all the time to get that amount of stuff to throw away and it’s really like totally crazy. So it’s been two months since we’ve started the game. In the first week we’ve changed the rules to “you have to get rid of 15 things every week“. The first week I’ve put some old bags and shoes away and got the first 15 things. And then it got very quiet… Practically I haven’t done anything for the game untill last week. But last week I’ve used the sunday afternoon to sort out all my cloths (and my husband’s cloths) and got to 110 things at one. All of them went to the clothes recycling skip. But time flies and now I’m already behind the plan again, as I should have sorted out other useless things this week.
So the cleaning up is far away from over, how about you?
PS. the waffle iron is also rot living with me anymore
January 22, 2014
I had to ask myself this question today and well – I can Kind of… I was so confident about it, as I’ve butchered many fish and animals as a child, that I didn’t google it or something. I just filleted that fish like I’ve done it with other fishes as a child. And I was very pleased with the result, as the fish was tastier than the frozen stuff. So I wondered why is this so? Why does most of the frozen fillets have no skin and no fish-fat? At the end, that’s kind of the most healthy stuff about fish, their fat. And it’s really tasty. So I googled how to filet a salmon and like you can see e.g. here it’s a pretty clean job. Not only do most of the video show removing the skin (while of course some meat stays on it and get’s trowed away), but also cutting out the middle part with all the meat on it, so that you don’t have any fish bones on the filet. While this can be nice for restaurants guest, as they may not want any bone in their filet, what it does to the filet is simply trowing most of the fish fat in the trash with some of the meat too. And that’s like crazy when you prepare a fish at home.
Fishes have fish bones, that’s just normal and you can very simply remove them once the fish is cooked and still keep the fish fat and skin on. That adds greatly to the taste and you don’t trow perfectly fine fish fat and meat in the trash. As a kid the part of fish I loved the most was the fins – they’re so tasty and crunchy. But they get cut away most of the time too. That’s not really different from people wanting to eat only the bon filet and not the rest of the caw or chicken or whatever, but may be it’ll help a bit the environment if we would recall that most of an animal can be eaten, not only the bon filet.
Of course, you can always go vegan, than you don’t have to worry about it. But if you are going to eat meat, wouldn’t it be better, if you can butcher it on your own and try to use the most of it? When all we see of a caw is the filet packed up in plastic in the supermarket, it’s hard to be aware of the costs of it for the environment or even to be aware that it was an animal earlier – it’s only a piece of meat, or isn’t it? Well, it’s a piece of an animal and it’s not worth killing it, if you’re only going to eat the one bon filet piece…
January 18, 2014
Not that long ago I’ve written about Ironblogger and since then there really was a post every week here. So? There are two important conclusions for me by now:
1. Apparently if I would have to pay 5€ for not blogging in one week, I’ll blog. So this blog still isn’t dead thanks to Ironblogger, that’s kind of nice.
2. Mostly I would blog something I wouldn’t have blogged if I didn’t have this pressure. Since I’m at the Ironbloggers I had only two posts, that I would have blogged anyway. The other ones were done like that “man, it’s already Sunday and I still haven’t blogged anything, let’s see if there is anything in the drafts – no, OK, so let’s just write the first thing that kind of comes to your mind, OK, it may not be like a really interesting post or anything, but you don’t have any time more to do anything good anyway, so just write something”. So I just write something, since I have a smart phone often from my smart phone, e.g. while travelling from one place to another (hence the more spelling errors). And I’m not really sure if like that. Isn’t it better to have less content, but good content? But are the spontaneous posts automatically bad content? The most important question for me and kind of the reason why I’m still at the Ironbloggers is, would there be any posts, if the pressure to post every week wasn’t there? Probably I would often think about something I want to write, but I’ll forget it pretty fast and probably think “You haven’t blog for such a long time, so who cares, why bother?” So for me for now it’s kind of worth it to have this “have to blog this week”-pressure, let’s see for how long. It’s really hard when I’m away or during the holidays, but well – not impossible So I’ll stick to it a bit longer and you’ll get posts like this sometimes