I consider myself open-minded and not judgmental, but that happens to me all the time:
I’m at a party and I’m talking to someone, we get along, then a song is being played, that he/she doesn’t like and it goes like that:
He/She: “OMG, that crap again, I can’t understand how some people can call that music.”
Me: “Well, it may not be your kind of music, but it’s still music.”
He/She: “Yeah, music for stupid/teenage/drunk/simple/crappy […] people.”
Me: “You can’t say that someone is stupid, because he listens to a certain kind of music. I like that song, am I stupid?”
He/She: “No, but most people who listen to that kind of crap are stupid.”
…and that goes for a while.
The “problem” is that I’m thinking to myself: “Another judgmental, closed-minded little person, who’s trying to be smart by listening to some kind of “smart” music and simplify his world by seeing only the fans of that music as worthy. O, wait a minute, by thinking that you’re doing the same thing, only that instead of the fans of some music, you see only the (music) tolerant people as worthy.”
So what now? Should I tolerate people’s intolerance?
I don’t think so, I think it’s not right and stupid. But these people think the same way about other people liking certain kinds of music, so if I have the right not to tolerate people intolerance because it’s stupid, they do also have the right to be intolerant.
So it’s alright I guess?
Well yeah, but not really. Recently a friend of mine was telling me about her time in Bulgaria and she said something like: “I’m having a lot of fun, at “chalga”-places* too. Not that I’m that type of person, o f…, I’ll just say it- I listen to chalga.”
I really can’t imagine what kind of reaction she was expecting, kind of: “OMG, are you serious? Clearly we can’t be friends anymore, because you listen to that music and that’s so under my level, I can’t believe I let you fool me you’re a decent person.” WTF?
So it’s not quite alright to be music intolerant, because it leads to people being ashamed of something they like or listening to something they don’t like, but it’s considered smart.
*chalga is a music genre, considered as music for “stupid”, simple-minded people froma lot of Bulgarians
PS. I hope you know that listening to Mozart will not make your baby smart, the best prediction for the intellect of your baby is YOUR intellect, so trying to be the most intelligent you’re capable of is the best for you AND your baby!