No matter what kind of problem comes up in my life, I always try to have a plan for the “worst case scenario” in mind. For everything. If I don’t have it, I’m just unsettled.
So if someone else, that I kind of care about, has a (big) problem, what do I do? I come up with (in my opinion) the best way of coping with the worst case scenario, so that even the worst case doesn’t seem so bad and unmanageable. After that I feel free to think of everything else, to hope for the best, there’s no fear of the “But what if it isn’t going to be alright?” anymore. Now I have an answer to that question and a better one than “It will be, you’ll see.” And what did I hear in the last situations like that?
“Do you have to be so negative, can’t you just say, that it’s gonna be alright and that I should hope for the best? By just thinking about the worst case you’re jinxing it and you making it more likely to happen (here I guess that someone has been reading “The Wish Granting Tree” again). I thought, you’re gonna be a psychologist…”
“I feel that by saying “it’s gonna be alright” I’m saying nothing, but by giving you a good strategy for “bad days”, I’m helping you. I’m making a trap for the big monster (the worst that can happen) that frightens you, makes you think full of fear, irrational and not acting optimal. And I though I was your friend and not your therapist. Besides a therapist is not a person, who hugs you, when you cry and says “it’s gonna be alright”.”
“Eh, North Bulgarians…”
What do you do – hope for the best or thinking the worst case scenario over?