Archive for November, 2010

How can you not care?

November 24, 2010

I really don’t know. Every me-me conversation lately is just so¬†ridiculous (yep, I talk to myself too, but not as funny as this girl ūüėČ ):

Caring and confused me: “How can you not care? You’ve always cared, that’s what have made you better, that’s what have brought you where you are, that’s why you could cope with every problem!”

Some new me I don’t know: “Yeah, that’s right, but it’s over. You’ve always cared too much, from now own you’ll only care as much as it is ¬†absolutely ¬†necessary.


Pre-birthday Depression 2.0

November 20, 2010

So, the 22.11 is coming around the corner and with it of course – my annual pre-birthday depression too. Since this year I don’t have the¬†requirements¬†(space, money, time)¬†for¬†applying the¬†number one way of fighting a pre-birthday depression, I’m so glad that I find¬†another¬†way to feel better about myself right before my birthday.


An hour-marriage, gender equality and Islam?

November 17, 2010

One of my new¬†neighbors¬†comes from Iraq and is half-Muslim. As maybe you all know, you’re not allowed to have sex before marriage according to the Koran and the Bible! Most Christians are pretty liberal in that aspect, most Muslims not. But the Muslims still want to have sex and have become more liberal sexually. So what do they do? – they do time limited marriage.

My neighbor told me, that before he can get¬†physical¬†with a lady, he has to marry her, even if it’s only for an hour. There’s a contact, that he and she have to sign. It doesn’t matter if the women is¬†Islamic¬†or not. The contract (the symbolic marriage) is just an expression of the deep respect for the women and a security police for her. The contact says something like “any children or complications resulting from that marriage lie in the responsibility of the two people signed below and are equal to the children from a traditional marriage”. So this contract kind of makes sure that the women is equal to the man – she has no more¬†consequences¬†to fear than the man, ¬†both are equally responsible for their actions and even the children are safe from being called “bastard” or something.

So isn’t that system kind of better than our way, which is more like “well, if something happens – though luck, you have to see how you can get by”, because we all know that contraceptives are not 100% effective and the women always has the bad cards, if something happens it’s her problem, not his or both. Additionally the child may have to face unpleasant comment in more conservative regions.

That’s what I’ve thought afterwards. As he told me about that “marriage” I just couldn’t stop laughing….

Would you sign such contract? What do you think Рis it a good / bad thing? Is that real equality or the opposite?

I guess some could say, that it’s discrimination, because the assumption, that a women couldn’t make it on her own. But why should we make everything on our own, while it takes two to tango? Should we?

My first photo walk :)

November 6, 2010

OK, it wasn’t only a photo-walk, I had to go to the store anyway, but I took my camera and went to the river, which isn’t hard to find – you just go in the¬†direction where the wind comes from.

It was funny to go for a walk by myself, but I wanted to do that in a long time. What I find sad is, that on my walk I met a lot of other people, who were going for a walk by themselves too.

It was so sad watching how about 5 people, who are walking alone, go around the shore and¬†try not to look at¬†each other. We¬†could say “Hi!” to¬†each other, ask what’s going on, what is the other person doing here. I know, that if you do this, people are¬†mostly¬†friendly, nice and happy about it. But despite my progress in social¬†contacts¬†I didn’t do or say a thing too, I just took some pictures and left, I just¬†went with the flow, or maybe I was just too sad¬†to be¬†a cheery social catalyzer… Anyway, here are some pics for you: