Archive for March, 2014

If you don’t want to be betrayed, just don’t trust anyone

March 30, 2014

Like slideworld said in a comment here, if you don’t want to worry about something don’t share it at all. For me that sounds just like if you don’t want to be betrayed, just don’t trust anyone or if you don’t want to have your heart broken, don’t give it to anyone. And all of that is perfectly logical, but logical doesn’t always mean practical or desirable. What we all really desire is not to live in full security by living trusting only ourselves, but to have someone else, who we really trust. Just like you’ll never look back and think “man, good for me that I’ve never ever trusted anyone and I haven’t have my heart broken by now”, but more likely you’ll think “man, I’ve been heartbroken a couple of times and that really sucked, but now I’m happy with my beloved one”.

That’s all not really new, but what is changing is the environment. It’s easier to share something online and once something is out, you can never get it back, so you should be even more careful online. It’s like on the one hand, the internet is giving us the opportunity to communicate more, regardless of the place and time where we are and is making e.g. long-distance relationships easier, but on the other hand the same thing that’s making all this possible, is bringing more and more suspect and doubt in our relationships… It’s like alcohol – it doesn’t really taste good, you first have to get used to it, for some period it makes you feel really good, makes it easier for you to build relationships and have fun, but if you take too much of it, it could make everything go wrong, so the most important thing about alcohol/ internet is to use it with caution 😉

Private Message ?

March 23, 2014

The NSA-affair got everyone thinking about online privacy a bit more. But in my opinion the NSA is not the biggest threat for privacy on the net, it’s much more simply the people theirselves. I really don’t feel insecure because the NSA could be spying on my messages or something, I feel much more insecure about the person I am talking to not keeping our conversation, photos etc. to theirselves. While I’ve never heard anything from the NSA by now, I’ve often seen private messages being pasted in other conversation or even on facebook-walls, pictures who were shared in a private dropbox-folder being shared on facebook-walls unasked, pictures of me I’ve never seen before being shared on my wall or somewhere else etc. This may have become normal to some extend, but it definitely makes the internet a not so private space. Everyone should be aware of the many possibilities to share information, who was supposed to be private, to everyone else out there. Even snapchat wouldn’t really help, you can mostly make a snapshot of your photo with one touch. That makes the rising of sexting even more puzzling to me, but I guess that young people today simply need to feel like they can trust someone enough … to send him a naked picture of theirselves and that he’ll keep it to himself. But can they? I don’t think so…

Fake really is the new real!

March 11, 2014

Do you know how sometimes you are fake-smiling and at some point you start feeling happier, like for real and not fake-happy, although you started with a fake smile? Well, I don’t… But it’s really how it’s supposed to work, there are enough studies showing that the outside can and does affects the inside greatly! And even if it hasn’t really worked for me with a fake smile, it surely works on a cognitive basis, like when you live in a city everyone says it’s the best – yeah, that starts to feel good in a while 🙂 I imagine that this is the only reasonable reason to live in New York and I would gladly buy it …

This TED-talk is about this effect. E.g. it says that people, who were taking powerful poses (standing straight, bright arms etc.) before going to a job interview did a lot better than people who were taking powerless poses (head down, touching the neck etc.). But the bigger deal there for me is, that this was due to them showing more presence and personality. Not a fake personality or an ideal personality, there were showing their own real personality more! So, it’s not like you show a fake image of you when e.g. you fake power before a job interview, but you’re just hiding your real personality more when you don’t…

So isn’t this proof that fake really is the new real?

PS. remember this?

Racism is over when you don’t notice race anymore

March 9, 2014

Southpark often has some good points, but one of their best ones was the one with the “racist flag”. Do you know the one, where they want to change the town flag in this one:

South Park Racist Flag

Racist Flag

and everyone is really horrified by it, because the black guy is being hang, but the boys can’t get why everyone is so shocked by the flag, because it doesn’t even come to their minds, that the colour of the figures even matter. Well isn’t this how it should be – there are four white guys and one black guy, but all you see are just five guys? And it doesn’t come to mind to treat the black one differently, because skin colour is just as meaningless to you as eye- or hearcolour. Is this even possible?

I really don’t think that I’ll live long enough to see a society like that. Today even hear colour is still sometimes the object of prejudices. A movie about slavery has just won the oscar – so race is still very very noticeable. Maybe we’ll never overcome it, but in many many years, we all will be so mixed up, that all the races will become one “unirace” with features from all races. Then it wouldn’t be that easy to differentiate races… Although, today we see discrimination not only based on race, but also on other stupid things, that you really don’t see at first sight. E.g. in Germany there’s still a big gap between West- and Ost-Germany, although people look pretty much the same in both… So maybe there will always be some kind of discrimination, but only based on different things than race? Is this the best we can reach? What do you think?

It’s pretty sad that today I really can’t dream the dream of Martin Luther King and imagine a world where people aren’t being judged by their colour, OK, maybe they’re not being judged by their colour, but their colour still matters a lot and brings up lots of prejudice and maybe is partly responsible for the enormous gap between black and white prisoners… We need prejudice to simplify the complex world around us, but really, do we need so much? Come on, we can drop some out, let’s start with the big ones, because they really matter! Or if you want start with the little ones, any kind of reducing prejudices is still a step forward 🙂

PS. check out this video

Bye bye winter :)

March 9, 2014

The winter is going home, so let’s say a nice goodbye with these pics:

winter plant 1

winter plant 2

winter plant 3

winter plant 4

winter plant 5

Little genius things

March 2, 2014

apple slicer

It’s amazing how little simple things can be so brilliant. For example an apple slicer, it’s genius! It increases the apple intake by 50% according to my personal experience 🙂

You may think – well, this is like really old, it’s been out there forever, why talk about it now? Well, I just discovered it two weeks ago. I was visiting friends, saw it in action and was like totally amazed 😮 It’s like – you get perfectly shaped apple slices with only one hand grip, that’s amazing! It’s also good for your apple intake, because you can easily share an apple with other people, so the apple wouldn’t get wasted for sure. It’s these little genius things that give me hope in humanity.

What makes me doubt in humanity is, that this little piece of genius only costs 1€ in every 1€-shop. Why do we need 1€-shops anywhere? So that people would buy useless things only because they only costs 1€? Otherwise, a genius thing like an apple slicer could be useless for someone else…