Posts Tagged ‘communication’

Communication only when no threat availabe?

November 15, 2013

I’m an optimist. I think that you can solve every kind of conflict or problem between people trough communication or at least help solving it in a peaceful way. I also still believe that people are good in nature and that every “normal” or “wise” person will explore every possible peaceful option before starting threatening others and showing off with power.

Therefore I was a little disappointed to find out that several studies like that one show that communication is only good when people don’t have a threat-option. So we need to make sure that no one have a weapon or is more powerful than the other in order to have a constructive communication? But today everybody has “a weapon”, e.g. money. You’re not happy with your boss? So what would you do? Threat him that you’ll quit, then he’ll threat you that he’ll fire you first? What’s the point? Are we really so stupid, that we would always use the threat option first? Or what would you do? Do you wait with your use of threat, or do you apply it right away, when you have one?

It’s way better first to talk about the problem and search for a solution together, peacefully, like “grown-ups”. I’ve always found that expression so ridiculous. From my personal experiences I would say that children manage conflicts way better than grown-ups for just one reason. When a child have some problem with something, it says it. It says it as it is, without the sandwich-technique or considering what options does it has and if you have better “weapons”. But as it seems, “grown-ups” do the opposite – they communicate constructively only if there’s no possible destructive option. That’s just stupid, so grow up and talk with each other honestly like children, it’ll make the world a better place.

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How to communicate with women ?!?

November 6, 2013

Help me, please – there is some really weird rumor about how women “communicate” that is making our lives complicated!

I don’t get it – communication with women “is supposed” to be so exhausting and confusing, you just can’t do anything right – just google “how to communicate with women” and you’ll see. I find that supposed “women language” very difficult – are there classes where you can learn it? (unfortunately – yes, even many…) I simply don’t get this “language” and me and my husband have arguments now and then, because I don’t set him all the communication-traps that women “should” do, but he expects me to… Who thought man this kind of crap? I guess they weren’t knowing, that it’ll make everyone’s lives harder…

Wouldn’t it be nice, if everyone would just say what he/ she thinks and thinks what he/ she says. Who needs these “women/ man languages”? What are they good for besides conflicts and waste of time? Do they really exists? Are women really talking like that, just because we are “supposed to”?

So let’s start a rumor about how everyone (man and women!) is “supposed” to just say what they think and think what they say 🙂

About… Small talk

February 16, 2010

Small talk pisses me off ❗

Why?

Well- why not? Who needs such pointless timekiller and buffer in human interaction, it’s just stupid- just another way not to communicate with somebody.

That comic really make my point, but let me explain…

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(no) Communication?

December 3, 2009

Already in the 90s there was one really good song from Bing Boys “No  Communication”, that represents the situation of communication today really good :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4eRSmtJV2nM

So- what do you think? Are you happy with all new possibilities to keep in touch with your friends?

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