Posts Tagged ‘forgiveness’

Power, Forgiveness and Revenge – a Study

August 17, 2010

What are you more likely to choose- revenge or forgiveness, if you have more power than the other person?

I’ve always thought, that forgiving is what the stronger ones do. It takes a lot of self-confidence, maturity, feeling secure personally and confidence in your self-efficacy. Revenge is more like what you would do in defense, when you’re affected, when you feel threatened and just want to strike back, to show that you have that power. Forgiveness is what you do when you know, that you have that power, that you’re strong enough and don’t feel the need to prove it to someone anymore. That’s a big part of the growing-up process to me.


Forget and forgive?

March 28, 2010

Recently Helen told me that it’s better to forgive and forget than hate. I agree with her, but she got me thinking. How does it works?

I think, that we need to forgive first, so that we can forget after that. You can not forget something you haven’t forgiven, at least I can’t. May be some people forgive when they forget something, may be that’s how the “time heals everything” works. But I think that it’s not really forgotten, it’s just faded away then.

It’s funny what Google thinks about it:

2.160.000 for forgive and forget

7.710.000 for forget and forgive

Hm? What do you think?