Posts Tagged ‘love’

Love at first sight – the “simple” love?

February 21, 2014

love smileSometimes your eyes meet the eyes of someone else and you just know – this is it,  THE LOVE! You can’t take your eyes off and if you’re lucky, it’ll last for a long time. This is the kind of love I believe to have with my husband.

What I find most fascinating about this love is, that It’s a very simple kind of love. In this post it’s suggested that there are three kinds of love: “I love you because”, “I love you if” and “I love you in spite of”.  So I thought about our love and it’s none of these three, it’s just a simple “I love you”. In case of  doubt it’s a “I don’t know why, but I know that I love you. I don’t need a reason to love you, I just need to look into your eyes and I know that I love you”. This is how love at first sight works for me, from the first day on. (more…)

Seven years together – how do you keep it interesting?

October 10, 2013

Today me and my beloved one are celebrating our seventh anniversary 🙂 And we got married this yeas, so there is a lot to celebrate. Often I hear people saying stuff like: “Ow yeah, seven years together, you have to be creative to keep it interesting…” etc. So here is a very simple answer:

It’s so simple. When you’ve found someone you really really love, like unconditionally, like a child – meaning without really knowing why, just feeling this inexplicable joy when looking into his eyes, you don’t need to be creative or something to keep it interesting. You only need one thing to make every moment the most special and precious in the world – you two together!  And then in doesn’t matter if you are at home, in Paris, at the beach or at some super-duper concert, if you’re young or old, dressed up or tired and without make-up – it’s always special and interesting! And the best thing is – it doesn’t get less interesting, you just want more and more of it!

Or at least it’s been like this for me by now and I hope that it will last forever… which may be naive and foolish, but what should I do – people in love tend to foolishness 🙂

I wish you a day full of foolishness! Acting foolish can be so much fun!

yours coping koala

holding hands at the altar photographer:  Draga Saparevska

holding hands at the altar
photographer: Draga Saparevska

PS. that’s why we will probably “celebrate” every month being together or being married, like we did all those years, because we don’t need anything else for this celebration besides the two of us and it’s just an extra occasion to show some random little acts of kindness and love, so why give up on them?

Sweet older couple :)

October 5, 2011

Wow, I haven’t been on my blog for so long that WordPress has changed again… I’m a bad, bad girl…

But look at those too, aren’t they a sweet older couple, they’ve made my day yesterday 🙂

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Is it all about sex?

January 19, 2011

Sex sells, sex can be an universal motivator and reward, a weapon, a trade good etc.

But lately I’m getting the feeling that sex is really not that kind of a big deal nowadays. It’s everywhere. You can get some anytime. If not – just one click away it’s an endless variety of visual stimulus for every fantasy. This over supply dulls our perception of sexual stimuli. A bare ass/tits today is not what a bare ass/tits were 10/20/50 years ago.

I don’t want to talk about this simple perception though. I get the feeling that  the sex drive today is simply not that important for our social lives (because it’s mostly satisfied), but the need for love and affiliation. I mean: I don’t see people talking to me, because they want to have sex, but simply to have someone to talk to; I don’t see people being on Facebook, because they want to have sex with some of their 500 friends, but because they want the feeling of being accepted, liked and belonging to. (before, life e.g. 5-10 years back I was seeing people doing a lot of thing just so that they can get to having sex).

It’s like sex is also not the ultimate frontier to intimacy anymore. On every party I go there are some girls that start making out or showing some flesh, but talking about e.g. religion is like soooo personal, sometimes I don’t really get the world today…

How do you see the situation today? I could also be seeing simply my need for love and affiliation projected in the behavior of others.

Love, Brainwash, Light…

August 11, 2010

For about a month I’ve been thinking to myself that love is brainwash and I’ve been trying to falsify or verify this suggestion, but with no success. So I want to put order in my thoughts and see what will come up:

Basically for me stumbling over love changed everything. It was not exactly a change of what there was, but a major extension, an upgrade of the world as I knew it. And that upgraded world was really great, lovely,  addictive, absorbing, infatuating etc. All perfect. I was insanely happy there and this happiness turned my value system and goals upside down (the brainwash).

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Ping-Ponging

May 4, 2010

That’s what I’m doing right now, ping-ponging. Actually the word that Leo tells me is the best for what I want to say is to oscillate, but somehow I think that ping-ponging is better. It’s faster, more omnidirectional and more influenceable. And that’s exactly what I feel like.

Ping- I love him and that’s all that matters

Pong- there’s no point in being together

Ping- he’s The One

Pong- he’s an idiot

Ping- but that incredible, inexplicable feeling when meeting his eyes for the first time across the room, that must be love, and it lasted for more than 3,5 years, that’s amazing and we should hold on to it

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Another chance?

April 9, 2010

It’s one of the best music videos ever! “Your heart is too big.” … so sad and still she keeps carrying her heart and hoping, soooo beautiful 🙂

Just how I feel…

April 1, 2010

I found that beautiful quotation of Bob Marley on the site of that lovely young woman and I just couldn’t help thinking, that that’s exactly the way I feel and it’s pretty much everything I would like to say to my (ex?)-boyfriend, with some small changes on my own:

You may not be her first, her last or her only. She loved before, she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either and the two of you may never be were perfect together, but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold on to her and give the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad and miss her when she’s not there

Bob Marley & just some little accentuations from me

Bob Marley is so great, he broadcasts exactly the inner peace that I need, want and have most of the time. You can see the original here 🙂

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About… HATE

March 24, 2010

OMG, hate… Hate is such a useless feeling, not constructive in any way and just pointless (I’m talking about “regular” hate, not hate in case of war, killing, death etc.). And still, when somebody does something really bad and mean, really, really bad to you, what would you do? Hate him?

What’s the point? What would your hate change? Would you feel better? Would the hated person regrets what he has done?

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Butterflies…

March 19, 2010

It’s a funny thing- once you’ve had butterflies in your stomach, it feels terrible when they’re gone. It hurts, it stinks and it struggles. But what’s left when it stops?

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