Posts Tagged ‘psychology’

Fake really is the new real!

March 11, 2014

Do you know how sometimes you are fake-smiling and at some point you start feeling happier, like for real and not fake-happy, although you started with a fake smile? Well, I don’t… But it’s really how it’s supposed to work, there are enough studies showing that the outside can and does affects the inside greatly! And even if it hasn’t really worked for me with a fake smile, it surely works on a cognitive basis, like when you live in a city everyone says it’s the best – yeah, that starts to feel good in a while πŸ™‚ I imagine that this is the only reasonable reason to live in New York and I would gladly buy it …

This TED-talk is about this effect. E.g. it says that people, who were taking powerful poses (standing straight, bright arms etc.) before going to a job interview did a lot better than people who were taking powerless poses (head down, touching the neck etc.). But the bigger deal there for me is, that this was due to them showing more presence and personality. Not a fake personality or an ideal personality, there were showing their own real personality more! So, it’s not like you show a fake image of you when e.g. you fake power before a job interview, but you’re just hiding your real personality more when you don’t…

So isn’t this proof that fake really is the new real?

PS. remember this?

Random Impressions

October 2, 2010

Lately I wanted to write so many posts but I never come to doing it, so here I’ll trow some random impressions from the trips lately (Bulgaria 2010, Bremen, the Congress):

Bulgaria 2010:

This year for the first time I wasn’t saying to myself “vacation in Bulgaria – never again!” It was really nice, I don’t know why I wasn’t bothered by the things that do usually bother me in Bulgaria, they were still there, just didn’t bother me, it was very nice πŸ™‚

Something that left a really good impression in me was, that I didn’t see a single beggar, it was full with street-musicians or street-artist, but no people, who simply ask for money, this was simply amazing (maybe I was just somehow extremely lucky).


So how is the congress going?

September 28, 2010


My presentation is tomorrow, I hope that the statement above will apply to it too πŸ™‚

It’s really interesting, it fits good in this period of change that I am right now, it shows me new directions and ideas, it’s also really, really exhausting…

So I’ll keep it short and not really informative, but you’ll get a decent update after it’s over πŸ™‚

PS. What congress? This one πŸ™‚ (remember this and this)

Power, Forgiveness and Revenge – a Study

August 17, 2010

What are you more likely to choose- revenge or forgiveness, if you have more power than the other person?

I’ve always thought, that forgiving is what the stronger ones do. It takes a lot of self-confidence, maturity, feeling secure personally and confidence in your self-efficacy. Revenge is more like what you would do in defense, when you’re affected, when you feel threatened and just want to strike back, to show that you have that power. Forgiveness is what you do when you know, that you have that power, that you’re strong enough and don’t feel the need to prove it to someone anymore. That’s a big part of the growing-up process to me.


O Yeah!

August 6, 2010

It’s official now, I’m a BSc-Psychologist! *dancing* *dancing jumpstyle* *more dancing*

So now I have only min. 2 years to Master (keep your fingers crossed for me to get accepted here or in Konstanz), then only min. 3 years of education in psychotherapy and I’m there! (if I don’t decide to make a PhD too and/or an academic career). O well, enough dancing for a BSc I guess…

But still, the awesome thing about it is, that I’ve made it on my own, I’ve been working stupid jobs the whole time, that always have come first instead of my study and I’m still on time with the BSc and my grades are not that bad, not that bad at all (I guess).Β  I should be going back to work now πŸ™‚

Good News

July 27, 2010

So yesterday the secretary of my professor (“my” professor? he’s not like my personal professor, but my tutor or something, you know) send me an e-mail, that he has good news for me and I should contact him.


Glasses and Personality

July 24, 2010

Wearing glasses do affect how people see you, e.g. as more conscientious, smart (here; here). There is even some correlation between introversion, low openness for experience and wearing glasses (here), glasses can make you less attractive and harder to remember (here). What do I think of that crap?


To understand…

June 19, 2010

Lately I was really annoyed with some of my student colleagues. We are having our first class, that’s really only about therapy & co and I find it really cool, because that’s what I want to do later. We can choose between 5 profiles, so you really don’t have to do this class unless you’re interested in becoming a therapist. And what do they do to annoy me?

They make fun of the techniques we learn. They make fun of that we learn not to form snap hypothesis and diagnosis, but to ask questions and really understand the problem, and that’s not cool and doesn’t really sound smart assed like the psychotherapists on TV (e.g. Roger in Friends, Season 1, The One With The Boobies, 13, couldn’t find a link…).

It’s like in school or kindergarten – what the teacher says it’s just sooo not cool. It’s exactly like when you learn about the human body and reproductive organs and everybody is just giggling and makes fun of you, if you say the things like there are without giggling.

Making a psychotherapeutic conversation is surely not fun and cool, we don’t learn how to write a good script for a TV-Show and you would sound geeky if you do it with your friends, but it’s also not supposed to be fun, cool or smart assed. It’s supposed to help people and if you want to be a therapist, you better learn it and understand it, otherwise just don’t go to that class! We’re not in school anymore, drop the bullshit!

So – let’s go to the big picture:


Who’s a psychologist now, ha?

June 10, 2010

Well, not me. Not yet.

But I’ve handed in my bachelor thesis last week and the prof was like: “O, interesting, I didn’t expect such good results, if you are interested I’ll ask some people if we can present it at the national conference this year.”


Something that made me smile…

April 10, 2010

Helen recommended that cool astrology site to me and in my horoscope there I saw something, that made me smile:

“Mercury in Scorpio

She is extremely observant and astute, always reading between the lines and looking for the real meaning behind things. Passionate in speech, excellent at strategy. Natural psychologist.”

Yeah… And right now I’m sitting on the data for my BSc thesis and it looks pretty good, o yeah, who’ll be a psychologist in 5 years, ha? :D:D:D