Posts Tagged ‘satisfaction’

Time flyies when you still have a lot to do

December 22, 2013

Lately I often think and hear stuff like “time gows by so quickly”. Then I wonder how come this wasn’t so when we were children. I’ve never heard someone saying “man, time goes by so quickly, all the sudden I’m 5”. I think that this has a simple logical explanation. Adults have so many plans, so many goals and wishes like ‘I want to be married before 30’ etc. Then all the sudden one is 30 but still not married. Then it’s easier to say “time passes by so quickly” than “man, I’m already 30 and I still haven’t done …/ am not …”.

Kids don’t really have this problem, because they don’t plan so far in the future and are more flexible in their plans. If Santa Claus doesn’t bring the yellow bagger, the red car is still fun enough…

When older people are satisfied with what they’ve done so far in their lifes, they are as relaxed about time as children. My gradma often says something like “I’ve lived mylife, have done this and this, that’s good enough, I don’t fear death” and that’s really cool.

But for the “middle age” maybe it’s not bad to have this inner dissatisfaction. We want to do a lot and time passes by quickly, so it’s kind of good that e.g. around new year we make a mental checklist of our goals and wishes and mostly see, that there is still a lot to do. We simply need this pressure to get it done, so that we can be satisfied with us when we are old, like my grandma…

the biggest, the greatest – The Best!

March 13, 2011

4,5 years ago I’ve come to Germany and my first impression was “So what, it looks like every other place, I don’t really see a difference from Bulgaria…”. Soon after that I’ve noticed one big difference in my opinion – even though I was living in the nonexistent City of Bielefeld I was always hearing stuff like “here’s the biggest / the first / the greatest / the best / the oldest / the most beautiful etc …” I’ve never really heard stuff like that in Bulgaria – people being proud of whatever their city / country has to offer. Now that I’ve moved to Hamburg I hear stuff like “the biggest / greatest / best” all the time, people are soooo proud of … I don’t really get of what. Hamburg even advertise itself as the most beautiful city in the world!!! That’s really kind of crazy I think, there is some ground for it in a couple of surveys in Germany, but every normal human being wouldn’t take that too seriously. Still – it feels kind of nice to be walking around a place, that the people who live in just love and are proud of . It’s a crazy obviously fake self-esteem-boaster, that  as crazy as it is just works.

So the point of that no-point-post, that you’ve missed so much lately 😉 ,  is that the good feeling of living anywhere doesn’t really come from what the place is really like, but from how the people who live there are feeling about the place. That”s why although Bulgaria has great history, amazing nature and culture most people are weirdly unhappy with living there the atmosphere of dissatisfaction creates dissatisfaction, just like an atmosphere of proud satisfaction creates proud satisfaction.

My Dream(s)?

September 13, 2010

So, so – Nezzo wants to know what I dream about/what’s my dream?

That’s kind of a weird coincidence, because while I was in Bulgaria, having dinner with my parents and some friends we were talking about a similar topic. As you know I’ve got my BSc this year and my mother said something like “The first step to achieving her dream is done, remember how we never took her seriously when she began talking about becoming a psychologist and how we didn’t want her to study it?” (I knew I want to be a psychologist since I was 11, at that time my parents didn’t knew anything about it and thought that it’s not a prospective profession).

That got me thinking – is that still my dream? Like dream dream? It seems just so trivial now, I even had doubts about it as my dream profession, now I feel it more like – “ok, that’s what I want to be in professional aspect”, but my dream???

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