Um… do you wanna be my roommate?

Lately I’ve been asking this question a lot, since I’ll apparently move, but more on that later…

It drives me crazy that nobody answers ?!?!?!?!?!?!? (a lot of the ads have only an E-Mail as contact, so I’m writing mails and waiting for an answer)

I’m not really comfortable with complaining & Co. (and I already did complained about that to several friends, that’s how crazy it drives me (I even check my Facebook for messages everyday…), but because I don’t want to do that anymore I’m “taking it out” here, that’s my place after all) (when are the meetings of the self-help group for brackets overuse, dear Helen?)

So, it’s really simple – if I take the time to write an application for your free room, you should take the time to answer me, a simple “you suck, I don’t want to live with you” or “cool, I’ll be glad to live with you” is more than enough.

I know you’re probably very busy and that there are a lot of reasons to save some time etc., it’s the same for me when I have the choice between writing an application or copy/paste one. But there is also one very important reason to take the time to write an application /to answer one – being nice!

So if you’re visiting this blog because a nice girl gave it as reference in her application – be nice and answer me!

My Dream(s)?

So, so – Nezzo wants to know what I dream about/what’s my dream?

That’s kind of a weird coincidence, because while I was in Bulgaria, having dinner with my parents and some friends we were talking about a similar topic. As you know I’ve got my BSc this year and my mother said something like “The first step to achieving her dream is done, remember how we never took her seriously when she began talking about becoming a psychologist and how we didn’t want her to study it?” (I knew I want to be a psychologist since I was 11, at that time my parents didn’t knew anything about it and thought that it’s not a prospective profession).

That got me thinking – is that still my dream? Like dream dream? It seems just so trivial now, I even had doubts about it as my dream profession, now I feel it more like – “ok, that’s what I want to be in professional aspect”, but my dream???

Home Sweet Home :)

Yesterday I’ve arrived at home, in the lovely town of Lovech (The Lilacs Town). I’m on vacation for about two weeks. I don”t really know if that means that I’ll not blog during that time, blogging is usually kind of a vacation for me, but just in case I don’t now you know why:)

Lucky to be a woman TODAY :)

Yesterday was Women’s Equality Day and I didn’t have a chance to post this “on time”, but I still want to say it – I’m just so happy and lucky to be a woman TODAY, I enjoy so much freedom and I’m pretty satisfied with the treatment as an equal human being that I get.

I’m currently reading Women Who Kill, Ashwin recently posted Frames of Freedom: Freedom to Love and a lot of other little things reminded me lately how lucky I am to enjoy that much freedom in my womanhood and my existence in general. I would like to make it short and clear, so here is what I mean by “that much freedom”, that we take for granted most of the time, but a lot of people died fighting for it and that’s my way to say “thank you” to them:

BU: National Senior Citizens Day

I’ve worked with seniors and now I’m working in a project trying to reform the elderly nursing education in Germany, the professor leading this project is almost a senior herself, so I’ve thought that I should post something on the topic, because today is a national senior citizens day 🙂

It’s simple – we should respect the elderly, treat them with kindness and as equal, even when it seems that they’re not capable of doing some stuff that are easy for us (like texting, surfing the net, remembering stuff or even going to the toilet on our own). And not because they’ve achieved something great while there were younger or because they’re really wise, because to be honest – not everyone is like that, but just because they’re human beings, who need validation and love.

Slap Me – I’m a Bad Blogger

Nezzo has asked us to write about why are we bad bloggers (and what are we going to do about it), if we think that we are, and I think I am, so here is why:

1. My Blog is becoming more and more personal, like a thoughts-diary, what I actually never intended (but needed apparently, after all I’m making it), so I intent to make 2 projects (more on that soon) separate from that apparently personal blog 🙂

2. My English is improving, but there’s still a lot to do about it, e.g. I’m still very shy about commenting on some good English blogs because of my language and I would like to finally get over that.

3. Somehow there’s a lot more photography here than psychology, it shouldn’t really be that way.

4. Lately I publish a lot of pointless posts, that’s not really good, I should stop it.

5. I’m pretty irregular with my blogging – a day with three posts, then a week with none… ? That’s not pretty, but actually since that will be my personal blog I can do it. Still I would like to stop it, I should get cleverer with the use of drafts 🙂

6. I’m not getting any “social media” like twitter, topbloglog, blogcatalog or stuff like it… A good blogger should get along with that crap.

7. I’m not communicating as much as I actually wanted and intended with bloggers that I like…

So now I’ll go work on these points. If you think that you’re a bad blogger too, take the badge and tell us why 🙂

ps. Nezzo has showed me an option to become a little better blogger, so I’m joining Bloggers Unite too 🙂

and a little slap-song:

Sweaty People

I really don’t get it – what’s the problem with sweating?

I’m from the sweaty people, especially for a girl I sweat a lot. I sweat when it’s hot, when I’m nervous, when it’s winter and I’m nervous, when I had a coffee, when I exercise, when I’m running, etc… (and I’m not fat, sweating is not just for overweight people, it’s for all people with normally functional perspiratory glands!).

Power, Forgiveness and Revenge – a Study

What are you more likely to choose- revenge or forgiveness, if you have more power than the other person?

I’ve always thought, that forgiving is what the stronger ones do. It takes a lot of self-confidence, maturity, feeling secure personally and confidence in your self-efficacy. Revenge is more like what you would do in defense, when you’re affected, when you feel threatened and just want to strike back, to show that you have that power. Forgiveness is what you do when you know, that you have that power, that you’re strong enough and don’t feel the need to prove it to someone anymore. That’s a big part of the growing-up process to me.

Inevitable?

I love Interstate 60, if you haven’t seen it yet (almost impossible) watch it. I can recommend it at least because of this “theory”:

“O.W. Grant: Every event is inevitable – if it wasn’t, it wouldn’t happen.”

So, is it?

Let’s see, that’s the classical non-falsifiable theory, like the most theories of Freud too. In order to proof it wrong, you’ll have to evade something, that already did happen or something. So yep, methodologically this theory is bullshit.

But otherwise you can “believe” it. It can be kind of relieving. It’s not like it doesn’t matter what you do, it does big time. It may be inevitable that you do it, but you still have to do it! Still once something is done, that’s it, it was inevitable, it’s past, done, move on, do some other inevitable stuff.

And don’t forget, that they may be black hearts and red spades and once you know that, you’re able to see them. So there could easily be another dimension, where all the evitable events happen and build one “evited” world  🙂

So what do you say  – is it inevitable that something happens, that we make that or this choice, that these choices are more or less just the results of all the inevitable events before them?

I can’t imagine a better kid!

I love Wednesday afternoons, that’s when I meet the happiest mother I know and the cutest little man.

I was never a kid person and I’m still not, kind of like Robin from HIMYM in that aspect (except when a very good photographer just kind of happen to make awesome baby photos), e.g. I still have never held a baby, anyway – not a kid person.